How to make a relationship better, here are some tip to strengthen it. However, ‘strength’ do not mean an ideal and perfect one, but it is to give a way for coming out of problems. This one quote perfectly summarizes the unpredictability of relationships. Contrary to what the fairy tales would have us fantasize, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Human beings are flawed and no matter how attached two persons are to each other, there will be ups and downs.
Nothing is perfect. Life is messy. Relationships are complex. Outcomes are uncertain. People are irrational. Hugh Mackay
There will be moments when you will absolutely hate what they do, but true love means loving a person even when you hate them. Consider those moments of disagreement and discord just as some bad chunks in a good cereal. Realizing the fact that that there is no ‘happily ever after’ in real life is the most rational thing you could do to help your relationship. If you have been with a person long enough to care about them, you must not be hasty in ending it based on some trivial things.
How to Make a Relationship Better
There is more to a relationship than some passionate moments of romance. Saying ‘I love you’ is not enough, practical demonstration of that love is what matters when it comes to strengthening your ties. Here are four proven ways to strengthen your relationship and by ‘strength’ we do not mean an ideal and perfect one, it just means that no matter how tough the circumstances get, you will always have a way of coming out of them.
Yes, take some responsibility not for everyday tasks, but of your actions. Admit it if you have overreacted to something. Apologize if you forgot a birthday or anniversary. We often underestimate the importance of bearing responsibility in relationships, but it is one thing that shows how serious you are about it. No one can stand to be discarded like a piece of junk in one corner of your life; to show them that you really care about them you have to bear the responsibility of caring about little things. You have to understand their emotions and feelings. Be sure to give that percent of importance to your beloved that you expect for yourself.
Walking out every time you have a conflict with them is the worst thing you could do to ruin a relationship. This only undermines the longevity and strength of your relationship because, over the course of the time, these arguments would evolve into bitter coldness and complete indifference. Most people don’t even bother to listen to the other side. Instead of feeding up your self-bruised ego, at least pretend to listen.
Talking about matters just simplifies matters a little too much. You’ll be amazed to see how many times your conflict would be resolved within no time if you try to listen to another side of the story. You might turn your backs to each other for a night, but at the end of the day, you would be happy to reconcile.
Most of us fail to appreciate the importance of respect in building strong relationships. At all stages in life, be sure to show respect for the decisions, choices, and perspectives of the other person. Disregarding a person’s feelings and opinions is telling him/her in the face that he/she doesn’t count, no matter what you must not harm his/her self-respect.
LEAVE BEHIND YOUR EGO
Your ego may be important to you in a variety of situations but ego usually is the first thing that hinders the foundation of a good relationship. It would stop you from making an apology; it wouldn’t let you listen to other person’s opinion. Indeed it would help you move on but except for that little ‘ego’ part, were you ready to move on? How many relationships would you just walk out of and move on?
None of us is perfect, so compromise. The earlier you make peace with this fact, the happier you will be. If you don’t like a habit or two, forgive them. That way you will be able to expect them to forgive you for your shortcomings. A relationship where two people overlook each other’s mistakes is bound to grow old. This is somewhat of a universal fact as well. If everyone just ignores little flaws in others and look at the bigger picture instead, the world would be a much happier place.